Listen More Than You Speak

Listen More Than You Speak
A good listener is not all about just talking less. Listening is something that has to be learnt. Since even if you don’t talk more and listen, people will still open up more to some people. The reason being that your body language betrays you if you’re not interested in listening fully, it will send clues that the other person will pick up. When you listen you have to be very quick to respond. So give all your attention to the other person.
Points to be considered:
- Everybody wants to be heard. More than a helping hand or a piece of mind, what people do need is an attentive ear which listens to their problems, worries and all they have to say.
- You have to become a listener. God has given us many clues when he made this body. We have two ears and one mouth to listen twice about what we speak.
- Most of us are so interested in ourselves hence go on talking about ourselves all the time. But this is perfectly normal thing, its human nature.
- A really miraculous change comes when you being to put others first. When you start to do that, people will react to you very well – it’s just like treating others as you’d like to be treated.
- People need to be heard – and you can give them that by being a listener. Being a great conversationalist is all about being a great listener. Always listen more than speak.
- There are a few very irritating things you can do to spoil a conversation – one of them being to complete sentence for others. It becomes a guessing game between the two – as a result the communication becomes a competition!
- Another wrong thing is to interrupt when something exciting is going on. Interrupting a person is a surest way to spoil the communication.
- This is not easy, especially if this is a habit but with practice and conscious effort, it is not impossible.
Conclusion:
Listening effectively starts with a purpose to get the state of the mind of the talker – it is your goal to grasp fully what the other person is trying to say. Response is equally important – it involves communicating through verbal/non-verbal clues that you are getting the message. Spend time listening. It is a beautiful way to get a lot of information from others. And remember, to have been a great listener too…